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One of my biggest changes in life over the past two years has been my relationship with time. Maybe it is seeing how much growth my daughter makes each month and knowing these amazing days of having little kids is limited. Maybe it is my research on executive functioning and time management skills through consulting. Or maybe it is my desire to live a life with as much good and as little “fillers” as I can.

Minimalism is about far more than decluttering and asking yourself “Does this spark joy?” In fact, that is only one small bit of a meaningful minimalistic life. Yes, my home is not cluttered. Yes, we try to minimize our physical positions and have scaled back greatly over the past couple years but the most powerful way we have minimized is with our time.

My husband and I have had people ask us lately about ways that we manage our time because, honestly, we have a lot of “free time”. As The Minimalist would word it, my “pithy answer” is:

Get in the habit of saying no in order to say yes to what you truly want to spend your time doing. 

(f you want to minimize your time reading, just hop to the link here! Keep reading for my non pithy answer. )

 

This is what I have started doing for grocery shopping.

  1. In the summers, I shop the local farmer’s market. Sometimes these prices are still a bit high so I am careful at how much I buy there. (We follow the Dave Ramsey Plan so I know where my money is going, especially the grocery budget)
  2. I shop at a local grocery story that sources its food from local farms. I only buy my dairy (usually kefir or yogurt), my bread and sometimes my eggs from there. (Ramsey Friends- I give myself a $20 cash limit per week there because I could get carried about with all of the amazing goodies.)
  3. *I use SHIPT. Grocery delivery to your house. Seriously, it is amazing. I grocery shop from Publix or Whole Foods online and it is arrives at my door. I double heart eyes loooove it. When I am shopping online, I can easily check my balance in my shopping cart and adjust my spending accordingly. I can click through the sales easily and use the search option on the site rather than wander through the aisles. Oh and the fact that I can have a glass of wine on a Sunday afternoon while waiting for my order rather than plopping my toddler in the cart, is just fantastic. (Ramsey Friends- Yes, it does cost a yearly or monthly fee. Yes, I do tip $3-6 each time. But I save money because there is no temptations. So if you are on baby steps 4/5/6, this is an awesome option. If you are plugging away at 1-3, keep it up. You can do it!) 

More to come about my meal planning, grocery saving tips and favorite recipes. I would love to hear what you all do to save time and money in the area of family meals!

*If you sign up through my link, I do receive $10 worth of grocery credit on my account. By signing up through someone else, you also get $10 worth of groceries and 2 weeks free. If you sign up, please be sure to let me know any of your Shipt Tips and how you are liking it.

Rhythm With a Toddler

Background: Lydia is 18 months. I work very park time from home while my mom watches her

Edited to add: I in no way have the rhythm “figured out” but I do learn a great deal from other parents all the time. These connections really help me and my husband form our views and shape how we want to design our lives. We are very grateful for friends near, far and socially that love to talk about ways that their families find simplicity and happiness throughout their days.


One of my favorite lines in Simplicity Parenting is, “A baby’s first lullaby is its mother’s heartbeat in the womb, a powerful rhythm that we try to re-create with gentle sounds and rocking in their first weeks, months and even years.” (page 97). This speaks to my soul. These precious childhood years are a time to guide children into an earth-side rhythm that can help them the rest of their lives.

I used to think that I would have a daily routine with my children. (Read: I am a new parent and was trying to figure it out.) It just didn’t work for me. I’m not good at specific times. I am however, fairly good at the flow of a household. I love this part of mothering and homemaking. The everyday is what makes me smile. I am an avid reader, especially on topics relating to play/development based learning, parenting and holistic health. All of my research over the past five years has led me to a place of such contentment with parenting.

I’ve studied education and child theory in depth. I love learning about the different philosophies and how to integrate this in my own life. I am mostly drawn to Charlotte Mason and Waldorf. Both of these philosophies have a strong belief in nature. A beautiful read, The Rhythm of Family, words the connection to nature as it relates to the flow of the day so well, ” The natural world can serve as both inspiration and reward on this journey. For it, too, is ever changing and constantly in motion.”

While Charlotte Mason focuses more on habits, Waldorf focuses more on rhythm. Learning about each of these have really helped me design our family life in a way that brings us such joy and simplicity.

You can read more about my posts about the philosophies here. It is ever-changing as her awake and nap times adjust but we are falling into a nice rhythm that is last longer, as she gets older. Flexibility is key. But, I also believe that gifting your children a natural rhythm and routine is key. For me it is not so much that nap time happens right at 1:00, but that the tiny routine happens right before that. It is not that we must do an art project followed by a stroller walk, but that the flow of calming and energizing activities fits our flow.

I truly believe that rhythm helps facilitate confidence and security.

Here is our general family rhythm as of lately. I have put in some times as general landmarks for you.  Please also remember, the important part of a family rhythm is that it works for you.

~5:30 Mindful Mornings

Coffee. Coffee. Coffee.

Start a load of laundry

Read, Journal, Planner

Me and my husband wake up and have what we call our “mindful morning time” where we read the Toa To Ching, do our 5 minute journals and review our planners together. This does not always happen. Sometimes I stay in bed. Sometimes my husband is traveling and I try to get one step ahead before Lydia wakes up. But sometimes these beautifully crafted Mindful Mornings do happen and those days are glorious because I feel that order and calm all through my day. My goal is to add a little yoga during this time but I usually get engrossed in a book or conversation with my husband instead.

Our mindful mornings end when Lydia wakes up, usually around 6:30. She soaks in some snuggles and soon starts saying “Eat. Eat”. She is my daughter! Wakes up starving. She usually finishes the banana that I started when I first got up.

Then Lydia hangs out with my husband while I get breakfast ready. They usually read books or play with the dogs together. Then, Lydia helps feed the dogs.

~7:00 Breakfast

By this time, breakfast is ready. It is some variation of the same thing. Every single weekday.

Eggs with Toast. Eggs with sweet potatoes. Eggs with peppers in an omelet.

It may sound boring, but we love how easy it is to plan. It uses one pan. I know how many eggs we use in a week. And it gives us some protein in the morning.

I make our daily smoothie while I make breakfast so that it is ready to go whenever people want to drink it.

After breakfast my husband gets ready for work. He works from our home office 3-4 days a week so it is an easy commute.

~7:30 Morning Rhythm

free play

chores

free play

This is also the time when I get most of my morning chores done. I fold the laundry, sweep the floors and clean up the kitchen. I am not the best house keeper in the world so I don’t have this part down to a science yet. But Lydia usually bops around with me while I do the chores. Sometimes she helps by sweeping,, rubbing a cloth around the floor, putting away dish towels or puts away the silverware. I involve her in as much as she wants to be involved in. Otherwise, she just plays around me, usually with her play food or baby doll and stuffed dog.

Lately she has been requesting to paint during this time as well. I used to try to structure the paining time to a particular time in the day but when self reflecting on our rhythm and “breath in” and “breath out” flow, I reconsidered this and allow her to paint during any of her free time. The two minute clean up is really not a big deal  and she is loving this therapeutic activity.

Her free time is a combination of independent play and time with me on the floor. There are so many different philosophies on how we play with children. I tend to not follow one directly. When she plays by herself, wonderful. When she plays with me, also wonderful.

This is the time we also read books and often do a “Morning Lesson”. These morning lessons are so simple at this time and can be just turning on a specific song to sing to with a puppet. Sometimes it is reading a book and looking at a little toy about the same subject, such as the zoo book with some zoo animal figurines.

But usually it is pure free play inside.

~9:00 Morning Snack 

  I was allowing Lydia to play while eating the morning snack, but after chatting with my mom about some concerns with her shoving food in her mouth(then grossly spitting it out on her plate), it turns out the child was getting to over-hungry and trying to fill up too quickly. Oops. (Mom Fail by me! Grandma always knows what to do!)

So now we sit down and have a proper snack time. We usually read one of our library books during this time.

Morning snack is usually some smoothie and either apples and peanut butter or cheese and crackers. We keep it really simple for breakfast, snacks and lunches. Snack time leads us into a calming portion of our day.


Mid-morning Rhythm

This is a breath out time for both of us. We generally head out on a stroller walk, nature walk or just play around outside. We let the fresh air hit us and observe different  wonders in nature. It is one of my favorite times of day and although  I love play dates, I often miss this special time we have in the mornings if we are out and about. We end this time by coming back inside, washing our hands and reading some books again.

This is also the section of day that we do most of our activities.

Monday: Library to check out books and grocery shop (bi-weekly)

Tuesday: Lydia plays at home with my mom while I work

Wednesday: Play at home for extended time, sometimes we do a playgroup

Thursday: Lydia usually goes to library time and plays with my mom while I work

Friday: We almost always go to the playground for a playdate

I try to limit it to only going out 2-3 times a week because I really like having huge sections of time for free-play. Last Friday, we didn’t have any plans so my husband and I took Lydia to the library to check out some books before dinner. It was a really nice family activity to start the week. We talked about doing that most Friday afternoons instead of me doing the Monday trip. This would open my Mondays to more free play and yard exploration (and gardening once we get into our new house!)

~12:00 Lunch

Lunches are super simple here. I usually drink my smoothie at this time and munch on something little like baked chick peas or leftovers. Lydia often finishes her smoothie (it’s huge!) from the morning and has some cheese. If she already finished her smoothie, she has yogurt with fruit. We all also love having soup for lunch. One of my goals is to get better about making soups that can freeze so we can have nourishing soups for lunch more often in the winter.

Nap

Lunchtime leads right into nap time. We usually read some more books  or play with a puzzle or something like that and then go into the bedroom. I rub a little bit of lavendar oil on her feet and throw on the white noise and diffuser. Then I either rock her or lay with her until she is asleep. Admittedly, I wish that the time that I begin nap time to when she is asleep was shorter, but I keep reminding myself that this is just the “season of life right now” and to cherish it.

Since my housework is done while Lydia is awake, I have nap time “free”. This is when I do house tasks like bills, budgeting, meal planing and meal prep. I also do a little bit of work to prepare my lessons for my student.  I work with an amazing high school student 6 hours a week on three academic subjects and executive functioning. Also, keep your eyes open for posts about my new project that I am working on focusing on executive functioning for young children.

 ~2:30 Afternoon Rhythm

This is another chunk of time that we usually spend outside. There is no agenda to this time. Just play outside. We are lucky enough to live near a woods so we do a lot of woods exploring. On Wednesdays, we have recently added a playdate with a friend and her son. They are outdoor lovers too, so we meet at a playground, park or at one of our houses to let them play while we chat.

Snack

After about an hour and half to two hours of play outside, Lydia is starving again, which really just looks like crankiness at the time. (Again, mom snack fail!) So we stop and have a snack. Usually it is fruit- orange slices and blueberries are her current favorites. Sometimes it is just a carrot and apple pureed pouch. Sometimes she has some gourmet cheerios or crackers. Sometimes bone broth.

Late Afternoon Rhythm

After snack we have a little calm time inside. We often have some tea. I may catch up on some office work during this tome. Lydia plays around the house. We eat early, so I often start cooking dinner. This is a hard time in the day. Lydia is getting tired, I am getting tired. She wants attention. I want her to independently play. It is what it is. This is the time of day that I pull out a sensory bin, pop her in the sink for water play or come up with some type of ridiculous game in the kitchen with pots and pans. Anything to give me that time in the kitchen to create. Cooking is one of my favorite things so taking the time to make nice dinners is so important to me…..Even with Lydia grabbing at my legs or asking “Up. Up. Rock Me?!”

Lydia feeds the dogs and (sometimes) washes her hands then we sit down for dinner.

I want to get in the habit of a blessing, lighting a candle then eating. This is my next part of our rhythm to focus on .The actual dinner and conversation is always sweet and a real grounding time for us all, but I would love to add an extra element in.

~5:30 Dinner

My husband wraps up his work day by about 5:15/5:30  most days when he is in town so he is ready for dinner early too. We eat our dinner as a family. Then Lydia usually goes off to play while my husband and I stay at the table talking.

Ok. Full disclosure. This is when our rhythm falls apart. Our bedtime (like the actual time) is a post for another day. I am reading, researching and looking at our patterns here. Reading and research suggestions are welcomed!

We live in walking distance to my parents right now and will be a short two minute drive from them in our new home (Blessed! Lucky! Grateful!) We often, especially when the weather is nice, have a drink with them before dinner. Or enjoy dinner together. This pushes dinner back to about 6:30 on these nights.

So we have this in between time here. Sometimes it is just free play inside. Sometimes it is a family walk. Sometimes it is playing outside for a little bit. It seems to always be something different.

Bedtime Routine

For how all over the place the rhythm is from dinner until bedtime routine, our bedtime routine is very consistent. My husband gives Lydia a bath. They both love this time together and I can often hear them in there laughing and chatting. I usually take a break at this point- shower, sit an play on my phone, or read a little bit.

After bath, Lydia know the routine so well that she prompts us with the next thing, “Teeth.” So my husband brushes her teeth, brushes her hair and get her in her pajamas.

Then I step in and put some more lavender oil on her and get her to sleep.  For how systematic our routine is, the actually “get her to sleep” part isn’t as beautiful. Again, a post for another day.

Relax

Then I creep out of the room and hang out with my husband. Sometimes he is back at his computer working. Often he is reading or finishing up the dishes. We hang out for a bit together- sometimes just on the couch reading or playing on our phones. We often chat and catch up on the day. Sometimes we go in the office, where our only TV is,  and watch something on Netflix. More days over the past eighteen months than I would like to admit, I stay in bed and fall asleep shortly after getting Lydia to sleep. I don’t like this habit and we talk about a lot as a couple. We discuss how important my sleep is as well but also that we want time together. This leads into why we want to “hack” our evenings more.

 

****More posts to come regarding these subject areas, including some interview style posts with other parents. If you need help with your daily rhythm, please check out Meagan’s resources with Whole Family Rhythms. She is far more experienced in this area than I am.***

 

 

So Let The Heart Beat Strong

After an amazing Thursday night meal with my family celebrating my husband’s birthday, It went to bed with this Waldorf Blessing in my head:

Home is where the heart is

So let this heart beat strong

May everyone who enters here

Rest in knowing they belong

May the sound of joyful laugher

Echo sweetly through each room

From the moment sunrise floods the Earth

To the rising of the moon

Then into the quite moments

Of each evening may you hear

The whispers of the angels

Singing softly in your ear.

I just find these words so powerful, so true and such a good reminder. I am so grateful that my life is full of such incredible people. I stood in the kitchen last night and my heart just was so full. My dad, brother and husband were chatting about everything from work to sports to how many calories are in each beer. My mom and sister-in- law were playing with my niece and Lydia, laughing at the adorable connection these two cousins have developed. And I just stood there, mixing the delicious pan of sauce, saying my own little prayer of gratitude.

Keeping House

I long to accomplish great and noble tasks, but it is my chief duty and joy to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble. 
 -Helen Keller
Smelling the beautiful scent of lavender essential oil float through the air, rearranging the toys to present new learning opportunities, singing while I make dinner with my mini sous chef, and embracing the imperfections of my beautifully ordinary life. These are the things that I live for and what make my heart smile.
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Many people have asked me when I plan to go back to work, what I do all day, and if I am going to go crazy without being mentally stimulated. I stumble on my words and look around for a graceful and pleasing response, but I haven’t found it yet.
I don’t plan to go back to work. I plan to run start-ups from my home and focus on teaching my children.
The balance of my day is a wonderful mix of leaving the house for playdates, library time and errands, and doing work from my phone and desktop, yet having the home our main base.
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 I am very mentally stimulated. I have this whole world of homemaking to explore- cooking from scratch (Ok, not all the time. I am a sucker for pizza of any kind!), making my own cleaning products, and learning about different methods of play and learning for Lydia. I attend webinars, masterminds and read endless material on small businesses and marketing.
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My life may not be glamorous. I may wear gym clothes for three days straight and rock the mom bun 90% of the time. I may shake my head when I feel like my day is full of washing our cloth diapers, cleaning up messes and reheating my coffee five times. But it is fulfilling. Homemaking is a calling, one that I am humbled that I have the honor to take on.
P.S. As you all know, it is not all fun and games. It is messy. It is exhausting. It is hard. Whether you are working and are single, a stay at home mom of four little ones, or anything in between, you are worthy of praise (and a glass of wine!) and are doing a great job. As one of my favorite designers, Emily Ley,  would say, “Grace, not perfection”, ladies.

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