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Mud Kitchen

3 generations. 3 kitchens. One love for cooking.

My mom doesn’t have a Mexican bone in her body but you would never know that if you tasted her tamales or huevos rancheros. And don’t get me started on her green chili soup and candies jalelanos. She has a gift in the kitchen, one that I’ve had the honor of watching her cultivate from the bar stool across from her. I’ve been her sou chef since i was a little girl and have the way her wedding ring sparkles as she holds an onion steady with one and chops with her other cemented in my memory bank. I’ve laughed at her dance moves and disco voice as she uses her spatula as a mic. And I’ve been grateful to be her taste tester.

I’ve never farmed nor does my garden look pleasing to the eye at the moment but you would never know that if you tasted my vegetable soup or chicken pot pie. I have a passion for using fresh herbs in my cooking and am fascinated by how a twig of rosemary can transform a dish. My cooking is often interrupted to pretend to be the wolf as my three year old trots around as Little Red Riding Hood, a frequent scene that I know I will miss greatly when this season in life is over. We have some dance moves too, they mostly include ballet twirls to some old school country as I use the mixing spoon as a mic. And I’m grateful to have my own little taste tester.

She’s never cooked a complete meal in her life but you would never know that as she stirs and pours in her mud kitchen. She carefully gathers leaves and flowers from the yard to add to her muddy creation. She twists and turns, slowly mixing her soup one moment and frantically pouring water and tossing in dirt the next. She always has a song in her head; her three year old voice belting out, her hips do a little sway, and a stick transformed into a mic in her hands. And I’m grateful to once again be a taste tester, even if it is a bit muddy.

3 kitchens. 3 generations. One love for cooking.

My parents made Lydia a mud kitchen for her second birthday. It has shelves and hooks for dishes, a stove top with buttons, a dog bowl sink and an oven that is always baking some delicious cookies. It’s the most well-loved and used present she’s ever received. She spends hours outside foraging sticks, filling her tea kettle with water and creating meals. She frequently falls into the roll of the mom while cooking. She tends to her baby dolls and stuffed animals that seem to find their way outside to join her kitchen. The learning that happens when a pot overflows, the mud is too dry, or the flower petals float on the water’s surface is invaluable. And the memories made in the kitchen continue…

Kitchens are a place for creating, experimenting an connecting. They are a place to both reflect on the day but also to just be completely absorbed in the textures she smells of your creation. They are a place to gather and bond over a mutual appreciation for kinship or food.

Mud kitchens are no different. If you’re searching for my daughter pre-breakfast or between 3 and 5pm, check her kitchen. She’s often engrossed in stirring, patting, mixing and foraging ingredients from the yard. She was gifted the kitchen from my parents for her second birthday. We are over a year in and it’s not an exaggeration to say that she plays in her kitchen daily. My parents did an excellent job creating a space that is simple yet had wonderful little details that allow her imagination to explode. They created little knobs for the oven that pulls down to bake muffins and cakes. They selected a dog bowl for the sink so she can easily pull it out to dump it when she’s done doing her muddy dishes. They placed little hooks on the back wall to store her well broken in pans.

Her dishes and pans are a hodge podge. We love this Melissa and Doug set because they are light weight but durable. We also have had luck snagging cheap utensils and cups from thrift shops. A little water station has been a wonderful addition because it allows for more independence in her cooking adventures.

One of my favorite ways to surprise my daughter is by adding a new element to the kitchen. Recently it was transformed into a cut flower shop, using old flowers we are gifted when my son was born. I’ve also welcomed painted rocks and adorable little pumpkins. Fresh herbs and citrus slices add another layer of sensory to the kitchen as well. In the summer months, I’ve added ice cubes to some bowls. I’m still plotting some new winter surprises- suggestions welcomed.

 

To answer questions that I’ve received about the kitchen. Yes, it does get extremely messy. I highly recommend that you put your kitchen within reach of a hose to spray it down. Yes, our kitchen is in a covered area because the covered space was already in our yard. I don’t think that is needed though. Yes, I resume her to clean up her own kitchen. This is a new one for me but I love it. She has a mini broom that she sweeps the floors and I encourage her to put her dishes away at the end of her play session, like I do in our home kitchen. No, she doesn’t try to actually eat her concoctions. However, I’m sure she would have if she has it when she was under two. We have that to look forward to with our son. Yes, I do play with her in the mud kitchen. There is a good healthy balance of independent play and parent-child play. I love mushing mud, adding in flower petals and if course sitting down to enjoy sone freshly made soup with her.

So yes, I’m just as in love with the mud kitchen as my daughter is. It was made with love by her grandparents and is played with with love by the little chef. 3 generations. 3 kitchens. One love for cooking.

Summer Rhythm

I often think of rhythm as the webbing that holds are weeks together. Without sending children to school and without working a consistant schedule, I find that having a strong home rhythm is even more important.

 

We generally use meal times as our rhythm anchors. Our rhythm hasn’t changed much since the fall, which I am very grateful for but it will very soon since I’m 38 weeks today! I’m eager to see how our little Gavin fits into the rhythm and how it will need to be adjusted for his needs. I find that the beautiful thing about rhythm rather than routine, it can ebb and flow to fit our lives.

 

When you are reading this, please note that these times are fairly flexible.

 

 

~ 7:00 Morning Rhythm

 

Lydia wakes up. I have been trying to have a little art “invitation to play” set up for her. She loves it. I also usually give her a tiny serving of fresh fruit to hold her over until I make breakfast. I prep this the night before so it is super simple.

 

We begin with bit of outdoor playtime, lately straight for the sandbox, sidewalk chalk or pool. She tends to stay close to the house in the early morning.

 

Breakfast- We still do a variation of eggs almost everyday for breakfast. Lydia sometimes requests oatmeal or yogurt so I accommodate those easy requests. I make our lunch smoothies while I am already in the kitchen.

 

After breakfast, we naturally settle in to read books while I have a little more coffee.

 

Then it is free-play, usually indoors, but these summer months pull us outside too. This is when I do household chores like laundry.

~10:00 Morning Adventure

 

I have been blessed with friends and an incredible play-based community. This lends itself from doing great developmental exploring any day of the week. I have been trying to be very mindful about what we agree to join in on. I look at proximity, time outside, child-led interest and my own enjoyment.

 

Mondays- Home Day

Tuesdays- “Mom Mom” time. Lydia spends the morning with my mom.

Wednesdays- Roots+Wings Playschool

Thursday- Home Day

Friday- Playdate, usually at a local coffee shop with a playground!

 

We have snack time during our morning adventure. This is usually fresh fruit and some type of nut or seed.

~12:30 Lunch

We try to get home from our adventures for lunch most days. I could push it and keep us out longer, but the flow of our afternoon works so much better when we are back by 12:30 or 1:00pm.

 

Lunch is smoothies and often something crunchy like crackers to satisfy our snacky needs. I keep a big basket of library books in our dining room so they don’t get mixed up with our other books. We read these while she eats.

 

We usually do lunch at the dining room table. In the summer, we tend to gather on the porch though.

 

~1:00 Quiet Time

My daughter doesn’t nap anymore but this post-lunch time remains very dear to my heart. She plays quietly in the room and reads stories with me.  Once in awhile, if she isn’t sleeping and I feel like she needs some shut off time, she watches a show.

 

I often have the white noise machine going at this time. We have one that has a timer, so after some quiet play, if I need a break, I set the timer and she knows she has to stay in her room until it turns off.

 

Potty Training hint: Put a mini potty in the room to stop the “neeeeeed” to come out of the room to go.

 

~3:00 Free Play

Our afternoons remain our free play time at home. We explore in the backyard, create art in the playroom and just bop around. Generally this is a two hour time block, even in the summer heat or the winter cold. This is when I tend to the garden, clean up the yard and water plants.

~5:00 Dinner Prep

I retreat the the kitchen to prep dinner. Lydia often helps me with this prep or plays with play dough or draws at her little bench right by the kitchen.

 

Lately she has been into audio books. I put on a story for her from Spotify, get out a book that matches the story and pull out a felt set that matches the story. She loves this and will often listen to fairy tales 3 or 4 times while I finish dinner prep. I try to clean all the dishes that I can while I go so after dinner clean up goes fast.

 

This is part of the day that I know will be harder with a newborn. Ayy!

 

~5:30 Dinner

We gather, as a family, at the dinner table.  She sits and chats with my husband and I at the dinner table until she is full. After awhile, she is free to go play in the playroom, directly off our dining room, while we remain at the table.

 

~6:00 Family Time

Kitchen clean up. Playroom clean up. Family playtime or stroller walk.

 

~6:30 Bedtime Routine

Sometimes she hops in the shower or bath, depending on her level of dirt.  But it is always brush teeth, books then bed. We do about twenty minutes of reading and then its time for her to go to bed.

Happy 2nd Birthday, Lydia Grace

“A love of Nature, implanted so early that it will seem to them hereafter to have been born in them, will enrich their lives with pure interests, absorbing pursuits, health, and good humour” — Charlotte Mason, Volume 1

On the week of your second birthday, I was brought to tears as you splashed around the lake. You see, you have taught me to cherish these little moments.

 

The delight that you find with each splash, the fascination of the leaves floating away, the gritty sensation of the mud sand in your hands and the pure satisfaction of a cold slice of watermelon on a summer day….

You get life.

You get that the simple pleasures of spending time with family in nature is what it is all about.

So I pray that you will always remember these little adventures, if not the actual memories, than the feeling of comfort and happiness that being out in the sunshine made you feel.

And I pray that if you ever get lost in life, remember that nature is your home. I am your home. And we both are here for you.

Happy second birthday, sweet Lydia Grace.


Nature Play: Part One

Spring is in the air and I’m craving barefoot walking through the grass, Sangria on the porch and the excitement of little toddlers discovering a new experience in nature. I will be doing a four part series in the month of March on the subject of nature.

This week is an introduction to a primary text from Charlotte Mason (volume 6) on nature study. Her sincere belief in time outside is beautiful:

“It is infinitely well worth the mother’s while to take some pains every day to secure in the first place, that her children spend hours daily amongst rural and natural objects; and, in the second place, to infuse into them, or rather, to cherish in them, the love of investigation…

(FAQ: But how do you stop them from eating the dirt? A: You don’t. I mean you can tell them no and redirect all day long, but the truth is that they are learning. Obviously try not to allow them to eat mouthfuls but a little dirt probably won’t hurt them. In fact, some believe that small traces in the bacteria in dirt actually helps children.More to come on this topic another day..) (FAQ: What do you do with her outside all day? A: Follow her lead. Let her explore and discover the world around her. Sometimes I offer “Toy prompts” like this large metal cooking pot. But very often, I just let her use her imagination. You don’t need a bunch of activities outside to reap the benefits. In fact, I would argue that by not providing many objects outside of nature’s gifts, you are giving your child the opportunity to learn in the most authentic way)

The child who learns his science from a text-book, though he go to Nature for illustrations, and he who gets his information from objects lessons, has no chance of forming relations with things as they are, because this kindly obtrusive teacher makes him believe that to know about things is the same as knowing them personally…

Let them once get in touch with nature and a habit is formed which will be a source of delight and habit through life…”

Charlotte Mason, Volume 6

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